I was devastated and I couldn't forgive myself for being so stupid back then. You two are worlds apart, likely with people in both your lives that love you. I love him and will always have a special place in my hear for him. I wanted to tell her I still loved her but I was so scared. What made me delete him off facebook was thinking about how he left me in the first place, he left town n changed his number, i was heart broken for a long time n felt like ****!! It just happened. What If You Had A 30% Chance Of Getting Back Your Ex? Move on and be happy, before you lose what you have. Similar situation...ex (the one that got away) contacted after appx 15 years. I too recently contacted an ex from 12 years ago, we had a different relationship. She didn't oppose or anything so that was the last time we texted each other. She has been married for about 5 or 6 years now. Similar situation...ex (the one that got away) contacted after appx 15 years. A man that I once knew many years ago contacted me on Facebook 2 years ago and supposedly had searched me out for 10 years. My college ex sent me an email about three years after we broke up. But unless you've committed some of the typical post-breakup mistakes, getting back with an ex is not dependent on you—but rather on your ex and the months and years of time. In our 20s we were on/off for about 3 years & during one of those off times she met someone else & ultimately got married. Colin March 13th, 2017 at 5:14 PM . I wanted to be selfish. Unanticipated, unasked, over five years later. I contacted her to tell her I was getting married hoping she would tell me "No" maybe I thought she missed me. But I really did love you. The downfall? My other half. we're both married. Go see him! But after speaking with him, I was surprised to learn, that I didn't mean that much to him, It ripped my heart out. But, according to professional dream analyst and author Lauri Quinn Loewenberg, “Whatever’s going on in the dream is going to reflect not necessarily [what’s going on] between you and your ex, but what’s going on with you.”Read along as Loewenberg explains possible meanings behind various dreams about an ex, and how they might … Do I leave it along and send an email say every few months seeing how things are going, or do I try to connect with him on a friendly level and see we can become friends via email only? Sometimes it can be hard for a relationship to have a completely clean break when it ends. Well what a massive twat i was, since he left me … Don’t do it. If he is trying to contact you, contact him back. I said no. wow, i typed so fast my spelling is awful. No way i wanted more. I broke with my ex girl 6 years ago, i did never say to her that i miss her, or love her, when i talk to her i allways show her that she mean no thing for me, and tell her bad words, and give her cold feeling, but truthly i do love her from the deep of heart i wish if i can see her look at her eyes kiss her hug her but i can not, so i think he stil remember you and think about you he is human being like you and he got the same feeling but you did hurt him that way his acting this way . Love Doctor, my ex broke up with me 9 months ago. At some point the stupid game playing on both sides has to stop if either of you wants ot have a relationship. She approached me one day enraged and broke up with me. The man who told it to me did as his therapist suggested and contacted … It lasted three years and ended very painfully for me. I never understood why and it would eat at my soul a part of me wanted to ask her but I was so scared. Why doesn’t she stop calling me so I can get over her and move on with my life? I had the a similiar experience, except I was the one that contacted an ex. Sometimes your lucky and that special one loves you back, hold on to that. She obviously knows how bad I’m hurting and that there is no point in contacting me since nothing is ever going to work between us. But there was little hope after blowing her off & the fact that she was married. Well be careful and make sure you actually know her because she may have changed a lot.. She has changed quite a bit...but for the better. He never contacted me and I never contacted him. Like a bird learning to fly for the first time. What I felt for you I can't explain. I got contacted by an ex like 5 years after we had split, and she called me. Probably reconnect somewhere else behind your back. Should I continue talking to him? im not gonna be anyones little bit on the side, this is the reason fr deleting him so he knws this **** well too.my husband is the most generous person i know, im not with him for the money but so much more n i realy dont knw if ill ever meet anyone like him again, ill give him that, so please if u have a loving and doting partner dont cheat cos no one likes a cheating scum... Oh that sounds horrible but dont beat yourself up about it, my ex ive msgd him too myself each time n hes super nice about it all n wudnt even say no about meeting up, but ive realised that sme ppl never change, he will cheat on his mrs n keep me on the side, but ive got dignity n self respect!! So don't think that your ex will run back to you and want to reconnect the day after he or she broke up with you. I thought she was the one for me. Same story, both married, … You might have completely moved on and be having the time of your life– then suddenly, here’s your ex. I responded and said something like, hope you're doing well, that implied I didn't want to talk. I've learned from my mistakes on how badly I may have treated you. Alden says May 10, 2020 . Whether you keep contact or not is up to you but if you do, don’t do so with the false hope that the reason he made contact was because he wants you back. He was the boyfriend I loved for three years until I met my dear husband whom I have been married to for 29 years. Because there is no love greater than unrequited love. I never figured what she wanted out of us. My high school girlfriend found me on Facebook about 4 years after we graduated high school. This is the email from Rosalia: “Hi Alex, just got to the office today and there was an email from out-of-the-blue from my Ex boyfriend who’d dumped me for another woman almost 10 years … I’m here to tell you that this is a BIG opportunity for you …and it’s something you shouldn’t ruin. Unfortunately she's still married, tho unhappily (I'm not married). I guess this "book" in my life never had an ending and til this day all i want is to finish this final chapter. I have been in and out of contact with my first love for 30 years. The first place to start is getting honest with yourself. we make plans but i have chickend out a few times. But if that’s what you want to do, the earlier you start the better for you. I made a mistake and went on a txt message binge. When your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact, the emotions come back, old passions flare, and your brain starts spinning around wondering what the heck you should do. I haven’t responded because I don’t want to break the NC rule. That is my fear. Monday, one before this last one, he contacted me, and left a message for me … It's like we picked up where we left off. Im on the same boat from the last post, it's been ten years, I really loved him, was pregnant and didnt go through with the pregnancy because he was a bad boy and I didnt what kind of life I would give a baby at the time. Waking up from a dream about an ex can be jarring. The relationship had problems that we couldn’t resolve and she decided it was better to break up. Gosh! Ex girlfriend contacts me after 10 years. I told myself that if I ever get another opportunity w her that i was going to take it. I never stopped thinking about him, and always, always regreted not going through with the pregnancy. I felt heartbroken, and fooled for believing in us, and embarrassed. I’ve been NC for 2 weeks but he has been texting me every other day asking me how I am doing or for random things. I knew I had to make you mine. I ran into her family a year later and said hi. Don't do it! I am in love with an... My husband and I have been married for 10 years. it's hard, I would give anything for him to say I missed you too, but it never came. Next thing you know, déjà vu creeps up as you re-read their favorite novel at their go-to café. I want to make the "recently" part important, because I wonder if this is more of an infatuation. And after that any further conversation, just reminded me, of how much I wanted the man I fell in love with, and how he didn't want me anymore. hope some of it makes sense! I just want a better closure because he deserves it and it would also help me as well. Fact #10: It is important to tell the spouse about the contact, right from the beginning. I did have an ex from even longer ago contact me years down the road. No doubt “getting over her and moving on” is a whole lot difficult than it sounds. The morning after I sent him a text but haven’t from him for 5 days. Luckily, he got it at the time. ... but he's married. Yangki’s Answer: There’s really no telling what’s on her mind. Before we got separated….mind you, we never had sex, he laid a kiss on my forehead to say goodbye to me before I moved out of state later that same day. Reconnecting with an ex after the breakup takes time. I was only 20 yrs old bak then, this is what made me delete him n am so glad ive gotten rid of it now. Im now thinking i have been someone of convenience for her. Still we stayed in contact. I think my ex is going to do the same thing. The world stopped in front of me. Reconciliations take a lot of time. But whatever her reasons are, you acting like a reluctant victim strikes me as either someone who doesn’t want this to stop or someone who has always let her have her way and won’t stand up for yourself and what you want. She wants to find out if you are still needy. We emailed back and forth for 3 days, talking about our lives, our kids and small talk. All our conversations were pretty brief, but it was nice catching up. I regret a lot. I made a mistake and went on a txt message binge. I know, I love him still, but I must never have hope again for it in return. Thanks! Fast forward appx 15 years later & she reached out to me on Valentine's Day 2016 (not sure if that was any significance) telling me that she still is always thinking about me & we've been talking everyday since & even met up several times. He has a daughter now, ☹️ , i've always wanted a daughter, I see pictures of her on fb, and wonder if thats what the baby would have looked like and naturally feel so much love for his daughter!! All these years you were on my mind. Question: My ex dumped me, and I vented to my sister. I don't think he's over her. His apology. She has been asking me what she should do but I don't feel I can tell her that since I'm too emotionally invested...plus I don't know exactly what's going on in her marriage. If you wait too long, she may decide you’re over her and have moved on. That’s how it should be…. I broke up with my ex and he went NC for 4 weeks. Now, he texts me all the time, that he is thinking of me, and wants to see me. Why Does My Ex Contact Me Then Disappear? W hen I was 19, I had my first girlfriend. Should I tell him to stop contacting me? I started talking with an ex-boyfriend about 2 months ago and I'm also married. You will get blamed for wrecking her marriage, even if that's not true, and wtf do you think she'll do when she starts getting bored with you? I've been married for 10 years, great marriage, I thought. She feels betrayed, saying that I … In hindsight perhaps she was giving me one last chance to stop her engagement? I learned a lesson, that everything I felt, was just me,and his feelings as much as I hoped would be different, I can't change. I wanted to tell her I was so sorry for hurting her but I couldn't. Whether to maintain contact or not is up to how you feel about him coming back into your life after 2 years of no contact. Why Your Ex Feels You’re Not Emotionally Safe, How Each Attachment Style Deals With Lying And Betrayal, Insecurely Attached People Can Also Be Committed, Anxious Men Imagine Women Are Sexually Interested In Them. I would like to know how things going on between you and your ex, if possible. I think she was mostly just curious about how my life had been going. Haven't hear from him for about 10 years. But I do know it was larger than this universe we live in. I never really appreciated what I had in front of me. I am married for 15 years. Fear Of Commitment: Relationship Is Not Hopeless. I also have an eBook that offers an alternative to ‘no contact’, and I offer coaching for those looking for an alternative to ‘no contact’. However I'm definitely trying to take things slow...it hasn't even been 5 months yet since we reconnected. 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